Vivian E. Palermo


Vivian E. Palermo of Kansas City, MO died on August 2, 2020 with her youngest son, Carl, and granddaughter, Christina, by her side.  Vivian was born on April 11, 1940 in Southern California.  At an early age her family moved to Kansas City and Vivian remained there for the rest of her life.  She attended Southwest High School and graduated in 1958.  A year later she was married and by the age of 24 had 3 children; a daughter and 2 sons.  Both independent and adventurous, Vivian simultaneously entered the workforce and took up acting.  As a self-described “ham” she found herself on stage in leading roles for the better part of a decade as a member of the Northland Civic Theater.

After her marriage ended, Vivian eventually met her partner for life in Benjamin Roberts.  Like kindred spirits they were forever in search of their next outdoor adventure, be it rattlesnake hunting, fishing, camping, hiking, or simply just stargazing. 

At 60, Vivian taught herself Spanish and worked as an interpreter during parent/teacher conferences for Hispanic youths.  She also helped coach the softball team for young girls.

She adored her grandchildren and great-grandchildren and cherished the time they had together.  She loved to cook and read and work around the house.  She saw the humor and irony in life and wasted no time on hate.

Vivian is survived by her daughter Elizabeth Creamer (John); sons Nino (Kelly Rhine) and Carl (Carrie); grandchildren, Vivienne (Christopher), David, Christina, Catie and Sohail; and great-grandchildren, Abby, and Madeleine.


At the request of the deceased there will be no services. 

Memorial Contributions

At the request of the deceased there will be no services.  Memorial donations may be made in her name to the Don Bosco Center at




  1. Robin Mosier on November 28, 2020 at 9:10 am

    To Vivians Family,

    I was truly saddened to recently find that Vivian had passed away. My prayers are with all of you.

    I worked with your mother over the course of several years while I was working for Permit Service and she with the KCMO water Services. She was our go to gal for reviewing and approving our permits. Us gals had so much fun visiting and going for lunches together.

    My husband and I were very fortunate to have been able to spend a weekend with Vivian and Benjamin “out in the woods”. We met at the planned upon location and the two of them showed up in a van that was painted like a cow with foam horns on it. What a hoot! We spent the whole weekend fishing, roaming around Cole Camp creek and just plain having fun. Benjamin and Vivian taught us to net our own bait down on the creek, we caught every kind of fish you could imagine. Good times!!

    May all of your wonderful memories comfort you in the months and years to come

  2. Connie Maggio on August 24, 2020 at 4:07 pm

    Carl I am so sorry to hear about your mother. She was an amazing person. She will be missed, but never forgotten. After we both were retired, moved, we still ran into each other. Good memories….
    We lived across the street from her on Drury.

    • Carl Palermo on August 25, 2020 at 8:21 am

      Hi Connie, hope you are doing well! Thank you so much!

  3. Steve Rutledge on August 13, 2020 at 1:27 pm

    Carl, one of the kindest comments I’ve seen someone give their Mother. You are a GOOD son. We are all thinking of you.

  4. Tony Seiffert on August 7, 2020 at 10:13 am

    Nino, so sad to hear of the loss of your mom. My thoughts and prayers to you and your family as you all manage through this difficult time.

  5. Carl Palermo on August 7, 2020 at 9:13 am

    I can never repay you for the gift of life you have given me! Not just being alive, but life! A zest for life, love and happiness! You always encouraged me to follow my dreams and supported me in everything I’ve done! You have been a shining beacon of inner truth throughout my entire life, and always there for me in my darkest hours! I will miss you terribly for the rest of my days! But I will carry a piece of you with me always!
    Sleep well my sweet Momma! I love you more than you know!!

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