Leon Kincaid

Kincaid,

Leon Kincaid, born Everett Leon Kincaid, Jr., 84, died in his home August 6, 2015, of congestive heart failure.

Leon loved Kansas City and had lived in Shawnee Mission since 1961 with the exception of two years in Des Moines, Iowa, in the early 1990s. Leon was born March 22, 1931, in Oklahoma City. His family moved to Topeka in 1944 where he graduated from Topeka High. Leon was a long-time successful advertising salesman for farm publications owned and operated by Harvest Publications, HBJ Publishing, and Farm Progress. He played sports growing up, coached baseball in Johnson County 3&2 for many years, and was a lifelong fan of the Kansas City Royals and Oklahoma Sooners. He loved poker and had helped host a monthly poker group since 1987. He also was known for his sense of humor which he shared generously with his family, friends and clients. With the late Darlene S. Schrader, they had five sons, and he claimed that his “only prideful accomplishment was fathering five wonderful sons.”

Leon was preceded in death by his father, Everett L. Kincaid, and step-mother Velma Stevens Kincaid; his mother, Joye Glass Titus, and step-father Jasper Titus; and son Kevin Kincaid. He is survived by his wife of 25 years, Susan Willey and step-daughter Kristin Willey of Sioux Falls, S.D.; sister Jeanne Caldwell and her husband, Jerry; four sons and their wives: Paul and Janet Kincaid of Springfield, Mo., Lance and Nancy Kincaid of Lenexa, Eric and Nancy Kincaid of Dallas, Tex., and Matt and Julie Kincaid of Leawood; Kevin’s widow, Shelly Kincaid of Switzerland; nine grandchildren; ten great-grandchildren; many cousins, nieces and nephews; three brothers-in-law; and many friends.

Fulfilling his wish, Leon was cremated and his ashes will be scattered in a private family service.

The family is especially thankful to the caregivers of Compassionate Care Cardiac Hospice.

 

18 Comments

  1. Bob Foiles on August 12, 2015 at 5:23 pm

    So sorry to hear about Leon’s passing. I never had the good fortune of meeting him but Susan has been a friend for many years. All my prayers for you Susan during this time. Big hug from California.
    Bob

  2. Jerry & Mary Jane Duff on August 12, 2015 at 9:37 am

    So sorry to hear of the passing of this very special man. He always was delightful and fun-loving! Our special memories revolve around our annual Christmas parties and Leon’s “gifts” for all. We still play with some of those gifts and think of him often.

    Our sincerest sympathy to Susan and the family in this time of loss. Our memories of Leon will live on.

  3. Jacqueline Kincaid on August 11, 2015 at 10:54 pm

    I recently revisited a folder in my email entitled “Grandpa.” Email was by far my favorite method of communicating with grandpa (excluding seeing him in person), as I know it was for many others in the family as well because of grandpa’s humorous emails ranging from the subjects of government politics to 1st graders’ creative responses on tests. His diverse emails reflect his personality, with unexpected and witty comments that came at ease. But, many of grandpa’s emails reflected his compassion and kindness that shrouded his personality too. I would often read encouragement and congratulations in numerous emails that he sent to me. All of these components: humor, intelligence, kindness, and countless others conveyed through email made grandpa who he was. I have decided to view this folder in my email as a keepsake and a true testament to grandpa’s unforgettable aura and personality, as I hope you do as well.

    Love,
    Jackie Kincaid

  4. Linda Gleason on August 11, 2015 at 10:08 pm

    Uncle Leon was quite a “card”, as everyone has attested to. He loved his family a great deal. Whenever we would visit him, he always had a smile on his face, and he joked about everything. I remember growing up and going to see all the “boy” cousins! We played pool, ate lots of food, and just had fun. He did love sending us birthday cards that were humorous, and some could have been rated “r” as we grew older. My girls always couldn’t wait until my birthday and see what kind of card I would receive from him. We didn’t stay in close contact, but I loved him very much. He will be missed.
    My prayers of comfort go out to the boys & families, and to Susan.

  5. Marti Smith on August 11, 2015 at 7:39 am

    My heartfelt sympathy to Leon’s sons. Susan, I cannot put into words how sorry I am for your loss.

    Leon was truly a gentleman. In all of the years that I’ve known him, I doubt there was ever a time that talking with him, or spending time with him didn’t bring joy to the day.

    I, like hundreds of others whose life he touched, am deeply saddened to have lost our friend.

    Sending hugs to all of you. May a special memory you’ve made bring a smile and lessen your grief.

  6. Dave Knau on August 10, 2015 at 3:38 pm

    The Ag Marketing profession has missed Leon since he retired. And we have missed Susan as well. Two of the very great ones in this business.

    Susan, our hearts are with you in the loss. We loved this man.

    I never had the pleasure to meet Leon’s boys. You were priveledged to have had this great man in your life. Many obituaries are “fluffy”. This one is right on the mark.

    He will be missed.

  7. Eloise Seaman on August 10, 2015 at 3:21 pm

    Leon was a very kind man. Through all the year’s of working with Susan in various capacities, I witnessed the kind and loving way he always treated her. He will be missed by so many. Prayers to Susan and all his family. God Bless you all. Eloise

  8. Kelly Schrader Ware on August 10, 2015 at 12:55 pm

    Uncle Leon was a fun uncle. He took my sister, Stacy, and I to parking lots at a very young age and let us drive. I thought I was a pretty good driver. My sister, not so much! I remember Matt and I hanging on for dear life in the back seat of the car while she drove. I think even Uncle Leon got more than he bargained for by letting her drive.

    Uncle Leon would remember your birthday by sending a card. The cards were humorous and you could count on getting a good laugh from them. I remember as a child, I would always want to see the cards he got my parents. They would be PG or R rated which I found to be really funny. During middle school and high school, Uncle Leon gave me lots of joke books. These were jokes I would tell my friends, not my parents!

    Through Aunt Darlene and Uncle Leon, I have five great cousins. We spent many Thanksgivings together indulging in great food and nice conversations. It was fun seeing the family grow through marriages and new babies at each of the Thanksgivings.

    22 years ago, Uncle Leon and Susan attended my wedding. Whenever I am sitting in my living room and need to know the time, all I have to do is look at the clock on the fireplace mantle which was our wedding gift from them.

    My thoughts are with Susan, the boys, and their families as they grieve the loss of Uncle Leon. I hope the memories we all have will be a comfort during this difficult time.

    Love, Kelly

  9. Gordon Schrader on August 10, 2015 at 11:15 am

    When Leon Kincaid married my sister, Darlene, he was 20 years old and I was 11 —- I soon became his “little brother” — he helped coach my 6th grade basketball team to the Topeka city championship. He did not know much about basketball but knew alot about encouraging little kids to play their best. He taught me how to drive — sitting on his lap — standard shift with him “working the pedals.” He and my sister gave me my first car. I was a senior in college — walking the campus — gave me that old car parked in their backyard — if I could get it to run (an they still paid the taxes, tags and insurance). My sister was very kind to me but the best gift she ever gave me was Leon and their five sons to share. When my sister and Leon divorced after nearly four decades of marrige — Leon and I refused to recognized that action —- we were “brothers for life”. I would be remiss if I did not mention how fortunate we were to continue to share in the lives of their sons and how kind these men were to our daughters. Leon last visited me in my office with sons Lance and Matt on my 75th birthday. His mind and wit were the Leon I always knew but the body was age 83. Leon Kincaid lived “hard” — not mean — just hard to the fullest (you would know that if you ever rode in a car with him). He was the first person that I ever saw “slide head-first” into second base in the placid mens church softball league in Topeka — he only knew one way to play a game — and the game of “life”. He only know one way to befriend you;to his fullest — he would give you every bit of himself that he possibly could and ask for nothing in return. But, even in that softball league, if he was coming home you did not want to “block the plate”. Brother Leon — You are “safe at home” — and for the rest of us — particularly my dear nephews always remember: “Love leaves behind more than death takes away”. Gordon

  10. Keith Crook on August 10, 2015 at 11:04 am

    It’s hard to believe that uncle Leon is gone. We won’t have those ‘awesome’ birthday cards to look forward to. I will actually miss them. It’s amazing he could keep up with everyone’s birthday. Wouldn’t surprise me if he did it for clients also. I know ‘Bean’ will miss her Thursday morning phone calls, no matter what. He was an awesome Uncle,brother,and Dad. He always had a great big smile, and a joke or good story to go with it. He would always put a smile on your face. Have some great memories of spending some Christmas’ and thanksgiving dinners with all of them. Wish we could have done more. One of you creative boys could probably, and should out some of your dad’s humor and quips in a book for all to enjoy.
    Keep the faith, God bless ya’ll.

  11. Jay Carlson on August 10, 2015 at 8:17 am

    The beauty of a great man’s life with so many friends like Leon had is evidenced by the memories made and influence he had on each of them that will live in their hearts forever. His kind spirit, wonderful sense of humor and passion for life endeared Leon to all. I knew him as a well respected businessman who loved his work and was very successful at it. My thoughts and prayers go out to his family.

  12. Bob and Shirley Peters on August 10, 2015 at 5:07 am

    We knew Leon for many years. Our daughter married his son Lance. We enjoyed and appreciated his friendship, thoughtfulness and humor. He was a good man and father! We were happy to have shared our daughter, Nancy, with Leon for 42 years. He will be missed by family and many friends.

  13. Shelly Kincaid on August 10, 2015 at 4:15 am

    What a great father-in-law. I loved his persistent humor, blending delirious optimism with stark reality. He could make the most sour person chuckle. Will so much miss that.

  14. Chuck weber on August 9, 2015 at 7:20 pm

    Sorry to hear about Leon. He was the most kindest guy I knew. He will be missed especially at poker!

  15. Ken McClure on August 9, 2015 at 2:03 pm

    Paul and Family–The passing of a loved one always leaves a void which is never filled. Please accept my deepest sympathy on the passing of your Dad. I did not have the privilege of knowing him but based upon Paul’s description of him over the years he undoubtedly was quite a man and an even better Dad. What sustains you during the times of grief are the memories which you will always treasure.

  16. John Wall on August 9, 2015 at 11:51 am

    There is no greater gift than a father that loves, nurtures, cares for and inspires their children. Leon was all the above. God job Sir!

  17. Stacy Schrader on August 9, 2015 at 1:17 am

    Leon Kincaid was a terrific Uncle that any kid would have been lucky to have. He was so much fun. He had a great sense of humor and a huge heart. I have never met anyone else like him. He was in a league of his own. I have many wonderful memories of times spent in his company. While I was growing up, my family spent every Thanksgiving with him, Aunt Darlene and the boys. This was a day filled with football, ping pong, funny games and jokes that was looked forward to all year long. He always had a funny card to send you on your birthday. There were adventures when Kelly and I stayed with them while our folks were on vacation. And I will never forget Uncle Leon teaching me how to drive. I think Matt and Kelly were terrified but Uncle Leon never lost his cool. Uncle Leon will be greatly missed and forever thought of fondly. Love You Uncle Leon. Always.

  18. Paul, Lance, Eric and Matt Kincaid on August 7, 2015 at 7:54 pm

    Dear family, friends, colleagues:

    Dad made it very clear what he wanted and didn’t want done when he passed. One thing he did not want was a memorial service. There were lots of reasons for that, including he didn’t want friends and family spending a lot of money to attend. Had Susan and the four of us gone against his wishes, we are quite sure he would have found a way to haunt us for a long time. We weren’t prepared to take that risk.

    Besides, if we had a memorial service, we would have to book the venue for about a month to get through all of the material we had on Dad. They say that a parent’s role is “to create memories for their children.” If that is true (and we believe it is), then Dad set a standard that will be hard to top.

    In lieu of a memorial service, we hope you will take a few minutes to share your thoughts here. The family will appreciate it and it will be therapeutic for all of us.

    Dad lived a long life – much longer than he ever thought it would. He lived life to its fullest – he most definitely got his money’s worth. Once he decided he was ready and it was time, he passed quickly and without pain. Even so, it is difficult and it will take time to accept.

    Dad loved his family and he told them so. He treasured his friends and he was a good friend in return; he never took those relationships for granted. He was liked and respected by an amazingly diverse group of people: family, friends, clients, colleagues, competitors, poker group, former players, neighbors, his sons’ friends, coaches, and more. Those relationships were due in large part due to his humor and his generosity…..but especially his humor.

    Throughout his life – and certainly raising five boys – Dad used humor as the antidote to just about every challenge: sickness …. injury ….. embarrassment …. grief …. despair …. anger …. surprise ….. boredom …. you name it. He was still making wise cracks in his final days and hours. His caregivers told us how great a patient he was and how funny he was.

    We especially liked the words of wisdom Dad shared over the years, some of which we have used throughout our own professional careers. Some of our favorites include: “Money’s never an issue – as long as you have some of it.” “Never get old – it’s not all it’s cracked up to be.” “There’s a fine line between being ‘in the groove’ and being ‘in a rut.’”

    If you knew Dad, then you knew he wasn’t perfect. But, then, he never claimed to be. Besides, he was too busy being a great Dad to his five sons to be perfect. He supported us, he showed up for events, he coached us, he corrected us, and he inspired us to be good Dads to our own children.

    Most importantly, he gave us the freedom to be ourselves, to find our own way, to goof up and grow up, to be individuals. He was always there for us when we needed him. We will miss him greatly. We know you will, too.

    Paul, Lance, Eric and Matt

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