Barbara Louise Copps Oliver

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Barbara Louise Copps Oliver, 88, KCMO passed peacefully at home 6.1.21 of Alzheimer’s disease. She was born in Richmond CA, 9.19.1932 to Daniel Joseph Carroll Copps and Mary Louise Scott Copps. 

Her family moved around due to her father’s career, but she considered Joplin, MO her home, as her Mother’s family was from there. Her High School nickname was Bobbie. After graduating from Joplin High School she attended Mary Washington College in Fredericksburg, Virginia (her father was a proud Virginian) transferring later to University of Delaware to be close to her parents in Wilmington.

She moved to Kansas City in 1960 to be close to her Grandmother, in Joplin, and other family/friends. She met and fell in love with Charles C. Oliver, Jr marrying him Aug 5, 1961. They loved living in Kansas City and raised three daughters there. Barbara was active in civic and volunteer organizations, but her passion and priority was raising her daughters, creating a wonderful family home. When her girls were more independent, she began a real estate career. Barbara treated clients like family, always going the extra mile. She achieved President’s and Chairman’s Circle every year becoming a top agent in the KC area.

At St. Peter’s Episcopal Church she served as Altar Guild Chairwoman, on the Vestry and was an active member. She and Charlie, enjoyed a wonderful life of travel, friends, golf and family. An avid golfer at Blue Hills Country Club, she was active in her children’s BHCC activities, loved playing cards with friends belonging to several bridge clubs and they entertained often. Barbara loved traveling to Hilton Head, to visit her parents. They also enjoyed Destin, Fl hosting a yearly Spring Break trip for their family.

Barbara lived a happy life having a knack for making others happy too. She was friendly, fearless, loved life and enjoyed sharing it with her family and friends. Her smile and laugh were infectious. When travelling to Hilton Head to visit her parents, Barbara would often drive part of the trip solo with the girls due to Charlie’s job. He made sure they had a CB radio for safety. Barbara’s CB handle was ladybug. She and the girls loved listening to the CB radio chatter while driving to South Carolina. They would take shorter girl’s trips where laughter abounded-laughter that makes your face hurt.  

To her daughters’ friends Barbara was a 2nd mom. If someone was ill, Barbara brought chicken noodle soup and a card. Friends knew they were welcome at the Oliver house for any holiday for fantastic meal served by a gracious hostess. Sewing was another of Barbara’s skills, sewing dresses or costumes for her daughters even making beautiful window treatments for each of the homes they had. 

Preceding her death were her husband Charlie, parents and brother, Daniel Joseph Carroll Copps, Jr and his wife, Ruth Ann, a niece, Kathy Copps Barth, Charlie’s sister, Mary Lou Kuhnmuench, her husband, Lloyd, a brother, David Arthur Oliver and his wife Carolyn. She is survived by her three daughters, Carroll Lou (Paul) of Kansas City, Ginny Ann (Roger) of Hilton Head, SC and Mary Jane  of Kansas City. 9 Grandchildren, Drew (Emily), Hilary, Sarah, Elora (Corbin), Leah, Jack, Charlie, Ben (Regan) and Grace; great grandson Marvel; many beloved nieces and nephews, as well as cousins.

Memorial Contributions

In Lieu of flowers, the family requests donations to KU Endowment – Alzheimer ’s Disease Center. Special thanks to caregivers, Janine Kalantar, Linda Thompson and Jean Sanstra, who made it possible for Carroll Lou and Mary Jane to move Barbara into a home they shared with her to during Covid; Ascend Hospice for providing comfort and care in the last days; and Shannon Bukaty and the wonderful staff at the Forum for caring for Barbara over the past 11 years.


A memorial service will be held at St. Peter and All Saints Episcopal Church at 100 E. Red Bridge Rd, KCMO. At 2 pm Sat, July 24, 2021. Her ashes will be interred on Sun, July 25 at 3 pm  at Pleasant Hill Presbyterian Church in Fruitland, MO next to Charlie.

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  1. Bob Scott on July 22, 2021 at 2:07 am

    Please give my condolences to the family of my first cousin Barbara. Remember her fondly as well as Charlie. She used to baby sit me eons ago here in Joplin when she was in high school. She and her brother were several years older than Grant and I who are cousins of same age. Another family member had tried to send her a Christmas card returned and inquired recently so found by search that she had passed away. Was glad my daughter got to spend time with my cousin Bill and family, including Barbara and her daughters, at a Thanksgiving dinner a few years back before my daughter married and moved to Atlanta. Was glad to see she got to spend her last days at home with her daughters.

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