Barbara Jean Hoyt

Barbara Jean Hoyt, 58 of Kansas City, Missouri passed away at home on April 1, 2013 after a courageous 19 month battle with cancer.   She spent her final days surrounded by close friends and family.

Barbara was born to Moroni and Betty Hoyt on May 30, 1954 in Independence Missouri where she was raised with five siblings.  She graduated from Willliam Chrisman High School in 1972 and from Cleveland Chiropractic College in 1975.     From the late 1970’s until 2011, Barb ran private practices in Buckner, Missouri and subsequently the Westport area of Kansas City.   Her patients brought her much fulfillment and joy.

Outside of work, Barb’s passions included classical music and opera, good food and wine, traveling with her life partner and the company of her many friends.    Barb never knew a stranger; she loved to engage people in intellectual banter and enjoyed making every person feel like the most special person on earth.    She could be seen up until 2 weeks before her death walking her beloved dog, Freddie.  Anyone who knew Barb will remember her amazing wit, contagious laugh and boundless love of life and people.   A hug from Barb was a common gift and request.

Barbara is survived by her mother Betty Mae Hoyt, siblings Deborah Lawson, Jeffrey Hoyt, Ashley Hoyt and Gayle Griffin; nieces Angelena, Gayle and Abi Graybill, Laura, Amanda and Casey Hoyt; nephews Jeffrey Hoyt, Ron and Ben Youngs ; godchildren Blake and Devon Nespica and her life partner of 16 years, Tamera Murdock.  She was preceded in death by her father Moroni Hoyt and her brother Martin Hoyt.

Please join us in a celebration of Barb’s life on Sunday, April 14th from 5-7 p.m. at the Todd Bolender Center for Dance and Creativity, 500 West Pershing Road, Kansas City, Missouri.  In lieu of flowers, please send contributions to support the “naming” of a chair for Barbara at the Kauffman Center for Performing Arts. Memorial donations in her name may be sent to the Kauffman Center for the Performing Arts, 1601 Broadway, Kansas City, MO 64108.


  1. Judy Siegfried on March 9, 2018 at 11:45 am

    There is no memory in my life of not knowing Barb. We grew up less than a block from each other. Barbie was my childhood playmate all the way through high school when college separated us. As kids, we built forts, played in our neighbor’s barn, shared secrets, climbed up the huge tree in the Hoyt backyard, across branches, onto the roof and into her bedroom window. We had overnights, talked about any and everything. Barb would play Herb Alpert on her coronet out the window facing our house and I’d accompany on my snare drum. We always laughed about how the neighbors must have loved that! We played all sorts of sports together, spent time at the family cabin in the Ozarks with both families swimming, playing, skiing. She and I snuck out at night, coasted their old Desoto down the hill to the lake and skinny dipped. College separated us until we reconnected now and again in adulthood when I’d go for adjustments and we’d catch up. She was my mentor and kept me sane in 1984 while I was coming out and later became my first “girlfriend” for a short while. We remained friends but sadly didn’t see each other nearly often enough. I ended up purchasing her first little house, which became my first little house. I am so glad Barb and my wife of almost 25 years now were able to meet a couple times. I loved her like family. I loved her presence, her laughter, her strength, commitment and friendship. Now, almost 5 years later, I still can’t believe she is not with us on this slice of existence and will always miss her.

  2. Shaun McGhee on April 20, 2017 at 9:48 pm

    Barbara was very good to me.i did work on her hardwood floors.she always gave my name and number out and helped me to make a nice living.barbara was one of my favorite customers.i wish i could have said,”good-bye”.i miss you barbara
    Love shaun

  3. Bill Penniston on January 8, 2014 at 3:39 pm

    I knew Barbara long ago in Buckner. I did the maintenance on her business when I was in high school. I really valued our friendship back then. I was shocked and saddened last week when I found out she passed. I will never forget her mile. She was a special lady.

  4. Arielle Thomas Newman on July 18, 2013 at 4:52 pm

    How sad I am to hear of Dr. Barb’s death.
    What a bright light she was. We had some great
    conversations about traveling, food, and the arts while she was putting my ex-dancer’s body back
    together in her chiropractic office. Never one to beat around the bush, she told it as she saw it. And was often so funny!
    You are missed.
    My sincere condolences to you Tamera and Barbara’s family.
    Arielle Thomas Newman

  5. Janice Raach on April 11, 2013 at 8:39 am

    Ah, Barbara – I have missed you this past year, and miss you even more now… I am glad you no longer hurt, and hope it is beautiful and always spring where you have gone…
    Tamera – Peace…

  6. Carol Meunier on April 10, 2013 at 9:32 pm

    I was shocked to read in the paper that Barbara had passed away. I always appreciated her healing hands and chiropractic skills, many years ago. She had a kindness about her that was comforting and sincere, as well as a fantastic smile.
    Tamera and family, may she rest in peace!
    With sincere sympathy,
    Carol Meunier

  7. Valerie Blackwell on April 10, 2013 at 9:40 am

    How blessed are we that knew Barbara! I always called Barb the Healer and her contagious smile was inimitable. Barb bought so much joy to the world.

  8. Bobbi Provost on April 9, 2013 at 5:48 pm

    I never met Barbara in person but worked with her in completing her tax returns. She was a long-time friend of my sister, Sally Baker. When Sally passed, talking with Barbara brought me a lot of comfort. My thoughts and prayers are with Tamera and Barbara’s family.

  9. Timothy Frazer on April 5, 2013 at 4:57 pm

    I am so saddened to hear of Barb’s passing. Only recently had we “reconnected” and I was looking forward to getting to know my dear cousin again after each of us going on our non-crossing paths of adulthood.

    I remember your visits to the Ozarks when we were all kids and how you loved to ride the horses and do just about any other activity.

    But mostly I’ll never forget your loving energy, winning smile and laughter, which obviously continued to draw people close your entire life.

    My heart goes out to your loving partner of 16 years Tamera and dear Aunt Betty, and to all who knew and loved “Cousin Barbie”.
    Rest in peace “cuz”. You deserve it.
    “Timmy” 🙂

  10. Ashley Hoyt on April 4, 2013 at 3:29 pm

    You made my life better for being in it. I love you sister!

  11. Kathy Barnard and Phil Martin on April 3, 2013 at 10:52 pm

    What a wonderful lady! She will be missed by all. We will help to make that chair at the kaufmann center a reality.

  12. Diane Nespica on April 3, 2013 at 9:18 pm

    Barb was really part of the Nespica Family in so many ways. Her undeniable presence with all the children, Grandparents, and life long friend/sister Roe was so special. Larry and I thought she was our neice!!! So if we felt this way just think of how Barb’s partner and family feels. She will be missed and never forgotten.

  13. Cindy Carter on April 3, 2013 at 8:55 pm

    Warm prayers for comfort and peace to Barb’s many loved ones. She leaves enduring ripples of love amidst the ache of good-bye.

  14. Becky Campbell on April 3, 2013 at 8:41 pm

    I am so very sorry, as losing Barb means the world will have less beauty in it, less love and less laughter. She lived her life fully. I still remember attending a slumber party at the Hoyt home back when we were in the seventh grade. We laughed hysterically as only teens could do. Barb was always encouraging to everyone, always smiling, always giving everything her best. Her entire family was amazingly kind. Please know my thoughts and prayers are with you at this difficult time.
    Becky Campbell
    WCHS Classmate

  15. Perri Martin and Mary Paulson on April 3, 2013 at 7:28 pm

    We so enjoyed being around you….as you were the best company. We will always remember you and your beautiful smile

  16. amanda hoyt on April 3, 2013 at 6:57 pm

    Im going to miss you so much aunt barb. I love you so much! Ill hold the memories I have with you till ill see you in heaven. Love you aunt barb. You are an awesome aunt.

  17. Julie bennett on April 3, 2013 at 5:35 pm

    Barb, though its been many years since I last saw you, I have fond memories of my time with you, Roe and the kids. You were definitely a treasure and surely missed by all who were blessed to have met you.

  18. Elaine Mills on April 3, 2013 at 5:25 pm

    Tamara, my heart and prayers are with you at this difficult time. Barb was Barb was Barb – a most amazing woman.

  19. ana gordon on April 3, 2013 at 4:02 pm

    sweet barb, thank you for all you have done for me. i would float out of your office and feel like i was walking on air. you are such a healer. your words were always soothing to me too. i apologize for not being in contact while you have been sick. i don’t know why i haven’t been- maybe it was too close to home. i have missed you. i love you dearly, ana

  20. laura hoyt on April 3, 2013 at 3:09 pm

    I will miss you so much aunt barb I love you:) you are all our gaurdian angel

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